Milestone Age 28-29, Part 1
How to deal with milestones in our lives?
I was driven by instinct, hard coded into my character from birth to pursue something which I did not fully understand. Whether it was in my genes, chemistry or simply my position in the universe to leave behind everyone I’d known and loved. In pursuit of the best expression of my true calling in a new land, so very far away.
Time was a precious commodity for me in earlier years and I was always in a hurry. Completing several degrees simultaneously whilst working full time earned me the opportunity to work in Australia, arriving at Sydney in 1998.
Shortly after arriving in Australia, I took up study of natural therapies, counselling and astrology alongside Finance work to find answers to questions that my business career was not satisfying.
Slowing down wasn’t even a consideration until I experienced two years of major shifts before my 29th birthday among a few other key events in my life. My company went broke, relationships were changing, friends got married or moved away and I experienced a major loss of a much-loved older friend whom had been my role model and champion since my childhood. I started to realise time is indeed precious. I questioned how well I experienced present moments and who I connected with instead of being in a hurry to hit the next target.
Thinking about how the erosion of my routines and comfort zones felt in hindsight, it makes the apocalyptic movie “2012” come to mind where John Cusack plays a family father frantically driving through solar flares and earthquakes that are caused by tectonic plates shifting. The ground opened and getting to the other side was a millisecond destiny call. Whether we want to or not – we are MOVED at times by forces that cannot be ignored.
The gap was opening between the life that I was expected to live and what I needed and wanted. My talents, internal drives and interests were at odds with social or environmental expectations and called for recognition at this time. Driven by synchronous events and my instinct once again, I moved interstate to work in the health and well-being industry.
Luckily, today’s multitude of opportunities to choose alternatives has become more widely accepted. Technology, like everything - has its pros and cons, however we never had as much creative potential at our fingertips that we can design our life with. The freedom we can obtain has grown equally as much as the restrictions we endure within our changing environment. Doesn’t it often hinge on how we think about it all!? Who is the voice in our head and who is sitting on our shoulders with demands? Is it useful for our fulfilment and happiness?
Expressing our authentic self
True freedom comes from taking choices! I noticed that catering for a parental expectation alone is not going to help me express everything I believed in. My life changes were irreversible, and I realised I needed to back myself. To follow what I felt was calling me. Strangely, at this time I was experiencing many coincidences in form of people or information placed in front of me to point me towards the right option.
I call this phase the Milestone Ages. Ancient astrology and cycles combined with many client’s stories and workplace experience have confirmed what I have experienced. It inspired us to develop a tool, especially for times like these. Solfile® App is a knowledge tool which helps to identify and empower you to resound your instincts during these times with clarity and reassurance. We drew upon the advantages of advanced technology which allowed us to put this application together to be with you daily and offer what you most need to know, when you need to know it!
Here are some of my tips to consider during the Milestone times. Increased anxiety is often present as our instincts pick up on the impending changes first. This is how our instincts inform us and we think (“here we go again!”). Choices are needed from us to utilise the natural tides to continually create our best lives.
1) Anxiety and its effect on our stress levels and nerves is significant. The nervous system involuntarily prepares you for a fight or a flight response, just like animals in nature. Internally we muster up the adrenalin and courage to make the change or we withdraw and gather energy for our next move. This internal process may tire us more than usual and extra rest may help.
2) We gravitate towards patterns or routines to continue and feel frustrated by roadblocks that appear. This may point towards the fact that adjustments are needed. Deep down we often know this. Consider changing small habits to train your flexibility.
3) Find safety in routines you can maintain amid what seems to be chaotic for a while. It will keep you calm and give to little breaks to gather strength.
4) Healthy habits are key to cultivate that this time. This may involve food, sleep, exercise and more. The results will strengthen your immune system and overall outlook. It will help to feel more motivated and energetic.
5) Seek support from a trusted source, a friend who can listen and be encouraging. Ideally, they have been in a similar situation which helps to know what to expect. We usually have the inner wisdom to know what is required and talking about it can make this answer just fall out.
6) Pay attention to the seemingly random events, people and information you come across. Carl Jung’s concept of synchronicity accompanies Milestone Ages and confirms the way towards successful manifestation of change. These situations contain valuable information towards the next steps. The more we become aware of them, the more we notice.
7) Wanting to hide and feeling emotional at random is perfectly natural at this time. Make time for writing your thoughts down, pay attention to your dreams, affirm positive messages about yourself and keep breathing!
8) The change you are experiencing often happens in waves. One day you are reassured and confident about your direction, the next day may be filled with doubts. This is normal! Detours and adjustments in direction are strengthening and deepen the understanding.
9) Get extra input by researching and learning. – knowledge about choices and alternatives boosts our confidence.
Milestone ages are Rites of Passage times. If we embrace the chance, they catapult us closer toward where we are meant to make an impact and be happiest. Don’t resist - what you are holding onto has shifted (like the tectonic plate)!
In fact, you are looking at a great opportunity wrapped in temporary discomfort to make room for the new aspect of you emerging.
Our team at People Planet Guide has been created to walk alongside you during these times. Contact me for an In Focus session and download Solfile App from our webpage or click on this link: Solfile App to learn information about your personal journey right away.
About Sylvia Flimm
Sylvia is the Co-Founder of People Planet Guide; creators behind www.solfile.com.au.
Sylvia has shared her wide area of qualifications and practical expertise as financial executive, health practitioner and counsellor on her dual career path for nearly 30 years. It is her passion to provide tools for increased self-understanding as a key to authenticity and happiness. She works with individuals and teams in the workplace to foster positive interaction and authentic expression which has been her lifelong quest.
Her personal and client experiences combined with extensive work in the operation of Health Retreats are well regarded locally and internationally. Sylvia offers a unique combination connecting wellbeing with mental and physical health to lead a successful and fulfilling life. She writes intent to help find our unique potential within and discover our special connection to our soul purpose.
